...it's child abuse
Yesterday, MArs and i brought Dylan to a photo shoot. Someone spotted him at a football game last Saturday and asked us if he could pose for them for an art exhibit they're doing. They said he was adorable, friendly, well behaved, and he was exactly what they were looking for. I thought it would be great to do so i accepted the offer.
meeting time was 6:00pm. We were there on the dot. I wanted to be professional about the whole thing so i made sure that we were there on time. He was posing with Nancy Castilogne (or however you spell her name). It was supposed to be a mother and child type theme. Soon afterwards, the makeup and hair person arrived. Everyone was late... and it took them forever to get Nancy done up. The whole time, Dylan was awake. He was so excited about being in a new place and being surrounded by so many new people that he couldn't take a nap. The bad thing was that he woke up early and went to the doctor in the morning. He slept for 2 hours when we got home. When he woke up at 2pm, the only nap he had since was in the car on the way to the studio which lasted less than 20 minutes. Shooting started at 9:00pm. 3 whole freakin' hours after we arrived there. He hadn't taken a nap and he was playing the whole afternoon. By the time everyone was ready for the photo shoot to start Dylan was exhausted. They had a few good pictures taken but after a while Dylan started getting upset. He was also in the buff so the fabric of Nancy's outfit was bothering him. He would start crying everytime she would carry him... i felt so bad. He looked like he just didn't wanna be there anymore. At the end of the shoot, they handed him back to me, and Dylan was upset. I could sense that he was unhappy with the whole thing and he started whining like he was yelling at me in baby talk. We dressed him up and we were out of there in a hurry. On our way out, Mars and i promised he'd never have to do that again.
He knocked out immediately in the car. He was so tired.
It was hard for me to watch Dylan get so upset over something and i couldn't "rescue" him. Everytime i wanted to go get him they would tell me to just hold on for a few minutes so they could take a few pictures. Is it possible for a baby to develope trauma over something like this?
I know it's hard to work with babies. Their pictures may come out cute and wonderful but the process of getting that picture taken is a lot of hard work. Set up, makeup, the waiting, the flashes, the hours, so on and so forth. Unless the baby has a nack for modeling at the age of 7 months (or any age below 7 years old), i think it's torture to have a kid go through that.
It's hideous. This whole child exploitation thing. Parents trying to make money off their kids. It's cool if the kid is down for it... but if he/she is not, don't push it. I've seen it on tv... little girls being forced by their moms to join those dumb pageants even when it's obvious they don't wanna do it. It's evil.
I'm not saying i'm 100% against it or it's downright disgusting. If the kid has natural talent for it, if it's what he/she wants to do, and if they don't mind, then by all means, exploit away. But don't push it when they tell you they don't wanna do it. If they'd rather go out and play instead of hang out in a studio and wait for hours to do something they're not comfortable with, then let them... right? And there's a difference between pushing a kid to play the piano and pushing them to start a career at an early and sensitive age in their life.
So i apologize to Dylan for having him go through that. Now we know...
meeting time was 6:00pm. We were there on the dot. I wanted to be professional about the whole thing so i made sure that we were there on time. He was posing with Nancy Castilogne (or however you spell her name). It was supposed to be a mother and child type theme. Soon afterwards, the makeup and hair person arrived. Everyone was late... and it took them forever to get Nancy done up. The whole time, Dylan was awake. He was so excited about being in a new place and being surrounded by so many new people that he couldn't take a nap. The bad thing was that he woke up early and went to the doctor in the morning. He slept for 2 hours when we got home. When he woke up at 2pm, the only nap he had since was in the car on the way to the studio which lasted less than 20 minutes. Shooting started at 9:00pm. 3 whole freakin' hours after we arrived there. He hadn't taken a nap and he was playing the whole afternoon. By the time everyone was ready for the photo shoot to start Dylan was exhausted. They had a few good pictures taken but after a while Dylan started getting upset. He was also in the buff so the fabric of Nancy's outfit was bothering him. He would start crying everytime she would carry him... i felt so bad. He looked like he just didn't wanna be there anymore. At the end of the shoot, they handed him back to me, and Dylan was upset. I could sense that he was unhappy with the whole thing and he started whining like he was yelling at me in baby talk. We dressed him up and we were out of there in a hurry. On our way out, Mars and i promised he'd never have to do that again.
He knocked out immediately in the car. He was so tired.
It was hard for me to watch Dylan get so upset over something and i couldn't "rescue" him. Everytime i wanted to go get him they would tell me to just hold on for a few minutes so they could take a few pictures. Is it possible for a baby to develope trauma over something like this?
I know it's hard to work with babies. Their pictures may come out cute and wonderful but the process of getting that picture taken is a lot of hard work. Set up, makeup, the waiting, the flashes, the hours, so on and so forth. Unless the baby has a nack for modeling at the age of 7 months (or any age below 7 years old), i think it's torture to have a kid go through that.
It's hideous. This whole child exploitation thing. Parents trying to make money off their kids. It's cool if the kid is down for it... but if he/she is not, don't push it. I've seen it on tv... little girls being forced by their moms to join those dumb pageants even when it's obvious they don't wanna do it. It's evil.
I'm not saying i'm 100% against it or it's downright disgusting. If the kid has natural talent for it, if it's what he/she wants to do, and if they don't mind, then by all means, exploit away. But don't push it when they tell you they don't wanna do it. If they'd rather go out and play instead of hang out in a studio and wait for hours to do something they're not comfortable with, then let them... right? And there's a difference between pushing a kid to play the piano and pushing them to start a career at an early and sensitive age in their life.
So i apologize to Dylan for having him go through that. Now we know...
1 Comments:
At Monday, December 13, 2004 at 2:28:00 AM GMT+8,
Erica Paredes said…
he probably had starnger anxiety now too that's why he was so upset...ananda recently starte dhaving it...like overnight she went from go with anyone to i only want mommy and i will cry and bawl with anyone else and look at mommy with a kawawa look in my eyes... hahaha
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